This is the first couple of lines from my developing Sci-Fi/Fantasy Novel and Musical Play called “The Other Me”. A story that contemplates the existence of parallel universes and alternate realities. The concept that there is another version of you living out there, that is experiencing and doing all the decisions you could have, but didn’t make.
I am completely fascinated by this idea. Which is where the book comes from. It’s admittedly, my attempt at trying to work through some unresolved issues and live through the “other me”. But hey- that’s the creative life for you.
I’ve struggled with this for a long time now. But lucky for me, I’ve been inspired to write a LOT of different media about it that will hopefully encourage other people someday. But when I’m at that low point; I fight with intense depression, anxiety, frustration, and anger at myself and my perceived “poor life” choices. Like not studying French in High School, living in Paris for a year, making that film who’s script I spent literally YEARS writing, releasing that EP, or wasting so many years in dead end jobs.
Hopefully you followed your heart in life better than I did.
But I know I’m not the only one who struggles with regrets, disappointments, and curiosities of the “What If’s?”
If you often feel like you’re living someone else’s life or no longer recognize yourself, you are definitely going through what I’ve been struggling with. You’re not crazy (even though you probably feel crazy many days) and you are most likely NOT trapped in some parallel reality.
But I will guess that you compromised yourself and what you really want in life somewhere down the line. You listened to other people and their opinions of your life. And although they were most likely well-meaning in their advice and perspectives, their views didn’t coincide with what YOU really wanted for yourself or with who you hoped to become.
Now you’re 25, 30, 40, 50, 60 years old and you realize you’re living a life you don’t want. Maybe you never wanted. And that solemn reality is negatively affecting every area of your life.
Because it’s not the life you envisioned. It’s not the life you hoped for. Maybe something’s are good, maybe even great. But some thing’s still don’t feel right. This is because you’re not living to your fullest potential. You’re not being authentic. You’ve compromised on your true self, what you really want, and probably changed yourself along the journey to fit someone else’s vision for your life.
Now nothing feels right.
It’s like trying to stick a puzzle piece in the wrong hole. You might be able to “make it fit” but the edges will be all worn and frayed and the image on the other side will be all distorted. Leaving you with a dissatisfying and only partially finished puzzle.
So, what can we do? Is it too late to turn things around and put the puzzle of your life back together?
You can’t go back in time to redo your life and make the other choices (or experience the alternate lives like the character in my book can) but you CAN make the decision starting TODAY to live authentically as possible, follow your heart, and finally live and create the life you want STARTING NOW.
I’ll be covering these concepts more in depth in my other upcoming books titled “Better Late Than Never” and “Create the Life You Want.” So, I hope you will stay tuned for that.
And if you are some of the rare souls out that that DON’T struggle with the issues of regret, disappointment, frustration, self-loathing, shame, loss of self, etc…. then great for you! Seriously. I mean it. Please write me and share your secrets. I bet your alternate stories and perspectives could empower other people. Myself included.
But if you are someone who has had many days feeling like you're living someone else's life, spends way too many nights laying in bed wondering about your life, or asking how you even got where you are. Then I want to encourage you to start living an authentic life starting now. You might have gotten off track, changed yourself for other people, and spent your life building a puzzle with the wrong pieces. But it's never too late to change course, get back on the right path and start building a reality you don't need an escape from.